BLIND DATE! 7 FOOT TALL GUY MEETS 4 FOOT TALL GIRL!I am usually a very patient woman but I am starting to get very frustrated with my ongoing situation with my boyfriend Andrew, of almost 4 years! I am 32 and he is 38 years old. I love him very much and feel that I have invested more than enough time to prove that to him. I have never given him an ultimatum or pressured him into marriage. We have been living together for 3 years and get along really well. We seldom argue and have a lot in common. People always tell us what a fantastic couple we make!
My advice is to choose option two and break up. What if he just needs more time? Fair enough. Set a time frame that is reasonable for YOU. Being engaged for years is no solution either. More about long engagements coming soon. I think anything over a year. How long do you think is too long? Have you been in a long relationship that ended well?
You can share your thoughts in the comments section below. I was honest on our first date about having to pay for getting pregnant.
I told him I dont want to live with someone who would be around my kids then leave, their dad is not around. On one yr he have me a promise ring saying he would marry me. Years later he said it was a promise he would always love me.
He now refuses to even answer me if I ask about future plans. He is always on his phone but doesnt respond to me. We are 7 yrs in our relationship and when I say I respect any decision he makes and still nothing. We dont go out on dates unless its weeks after my birthday. When he works out of town where he stays in hotels and managed all women employees, I would hear from him for days. He says at least we helped eachother if anything.
I left a bad relationship prior to him.
You're dating a man and he has children. Depending on how long you've been dating, you should be patient in the beginning about being. Right now I've only been dating the 26 year old for about 3 weeks, so it's still really new. I'm not crazy and thinking I want to marry him already or get babies. Once you start dating someone, you should ask yourself important questions to dating, and times you wish the communication would have been better. .. If you are a teenager dating someone seven years older, you should.
And he knows that. And every time I fix a reason why he will even say we are committed and will make it through anything not necessarily marriage he makes another reason. I just want closure and let him go. Or to be told we got this and move forward.
He gets defensive if I wear certain clothes now where as before he was so sweet and charming. Im not accepted on his social media and any little thing sets him off. How do I ask what he wants without causing anger?
I have been dating a guy for 4 years
He only has said it depends on of we get along. But he gets mad so easily now. He has no kids but when I offered to pay to have one he chose other things. He is in his late 30s and I just need advice. And yes this Is embarrassing. He knew wk 2 I wanted marriage and kids bc I was up front.
He was separated 2 yrs when we met and finally was able to get a divorce last year. We have lived together the whole time since problem 1. His mom even asked on multiple occasions and he said we were getting married. He promised end of Still no proposal. He promises we are getting married and having children, but still no proposal.
I brought it up again tonight after he had worked 12 hrs. I even told him mos ago just get me a fake ring idc you can get me something better down the road. He talks about the future, but still no proposal. Saying that out loud is so embarrassing!!!
I love him so much but love myself more. Well with so many women nowadays that are so very picky and looking for Mr. Perfect which definitely has a lot to do with it today, especially when many women now want men with a lot of money.
This is a really useful post. I have been going through the same thing for 7 years. Promises that never took place. Him disappearing on me for weeks. Why on earth would someone non stop tell you to move in with them and at the same time within a couple of days say it was just a thought.
Over the years I have changed as a person. Its like I do not care anymore. And I want to leave him, but it is hard. Why didnt he tell me from the beginning he was just fooling around. I mean we are both over Why must I put in all the effort all the time. Then suddenly he will make a joke about proposing and once again he will say oh it was merely a thought.
So now I have resorted telling him I will not move in with him anymore and no marriage as well. He wants to stay single to see others behind my back, then go ahead. Still, I find it hard to walk away.
Dear Sybersue ~ I have been Dating my Boyfriend for 4 years and Still no Wedding Ring! What Gives?
And in the end women like us are mentally screwed. I have decided once this is done if it is ever going to get there, I do not want to date ever again. Well at least reading these, I dont feel so dumb. Others are in the same boat.
People who have been in relationships with someone who was more than a few years older or younger than they are will probably tell you that.
He knows I want to get married and just goes silent when I try to talk about it. The most he says is, he just doesnt want to get married again. Wont give a reason. Hard to leave after so many years, what seem to be wasted years. I talk about moving, and he doesnt even suggest living together. I guess I know what I need to do, but its so hard.
Why Marriage so freaking important to tell everyone they are committed to someone. The love and loyalty you share with someone is 1st priority. But if it is important to one or both, then you need to respect that and recognize the importance. The thing is Mandy, women give. They put in financially eyc.
They have their own homes too. So taking care of 2 households because he wont move in or let you move in is financially destructive for women. So is feeling used. And once there is a break up, he is secure as she maintained a lot whereas she lost so much money especially if over And you cannot claim it back. I suggest to women ja, date him but pay only your share nothing else. You be amazed how many men then walk away. I was very open in the beginning advising him I will like to be married again.
I was previously married for 8 years and it ended. The interesting thing about this situation is he has three kids 4,7 and 25 by three different women. I have a child of my own 13 and do not want anymore children. All of his relationships have been anywhere from years with no marriages.
Keep in mind this man is 48 and I am Just need some advice. Thank you so much for this article! I have bin with my man for almost 10 years … I have had to watch my friends and family one by one walk down the aisle… and it has caused me a great deal of pain.
We lived together for 5 years, and were together for 6 years. In summer I said: 6 months to think — lets get married or lets break up. One year after break up he wrote me letters, we talked… In spetember he proposed to our common friend and in he married her!!!
We broke up a few years back due to disagreements of marriage and when.
We got back together with a compromise but 3 years later still nothing. Reason being we need to be financially ready- meaning a house. We ended up moving for my job and getting close to buying a house, only to have him relocate for a promotion in his job.
What hurts is he has to think about it.
The early days of dating someone new can be wonderful. You're getting In college, 'I've never been with a black guy before' is hot. But we're. The interesting thing about this situation is he has three kids (4,7 and 25) by .. Hi Ginger, I have been dating a guy from my senior year in high. 3 Things I Have Learned By Dating Someone 4 Years Older Than Me. Okay, I get that it's not your average relationship but one of the best decisions . These past two years have been nothing but a wave of happiness that.
Please help! Been waiting since year 3. He had me pick out a really affordable ring. We got pregnant which was fine at the time because we were getting engaged anyhow. It never happened. If I could go back I would have left when I found out. I feel all alone like a single mom except for finances. At baby shower I felt ridiculous without that ring and him being there.BLIND DATE! 7 FOOT TALL GUY MEETS 4 FOOT TALL GIRL!
At the babies birth I debated not having him there. I ended up giving the baby his last name. Huge mistake. In answer to your question; personally, I do not believe in ultimatums at all. I have always said that if a couple wants and is meant to be together, there are no big questions. Things flow without a lot of drama and you are on the same page within your partnership expectations.
I would sit Andrew down one evening in the very near future and ask him directly if he is still interested in getting married. If you are not happy with his answer at that time, start to make a plan with how you are going to proceed with your relationship. Knowing the truth will give you some clarity so that you can move on, or stay and be content with your common law arrangement. Not everyone has to get married but it seems important to you since you are writing to me about it.
Some men think that if they mention marriage once in a conversation, this will keep his lady happy for quite awhile. Sometimes they just need a gentle reminder as women seem to be more of the wedding advocate.
The only way you will know where you truly stand, is by asking him how he feels and by you telling him what is important to you. Like Like. Wow how did you know it was me?
Men are masters of game playing in relationships. Not a huge surprise, since the most common dating blunders are a boon to lazy men looking for casual flings. You have been successfully signed up. stretching into years, vs. months, it's women who have the most to lose, as time is our most precious. I have never given him an ultimatum or pressured him into marriage. We have been living together for 3 years and get along really well. I've been dating a guy for almost 4 months now. When I asked . I have been in a relationship with a guy for more than a year now. But I think I.
We both saw you and said now wait a minute… We have all the seasons and happen to be watching that finale. We had to rewind it to make sure!
That is too funny! You two Rock! Have an amazing weekend! You are commenting using your WordPress.
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Skip to content. Dear Sybersue, Am I ever going to get married? Should I give him an ultimatum like many of my friends are suggesting? Please let me know how things turn out for you.