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Love And Other Drugs: What It's Like To Be The Girlfriend Of A Stoner

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M y partner of four years and I are both in our 30s. When we met, he admitted he liked to smoke marijuana, but he has recently started to smoke more in my view, though he denies this. We are very different people, me quiet and careful, him exuberant and jovial. I had thought we could complement each other, but his habit is putting a strain on the relationship. I would have advised you to put on some Bob Marley, light up a big spliff and chill out, but this would go against who you are.

So at this point my default is to not smoke, and I'm super grateful about that. Before I met my partner, I didn't really have a reason not to smoke weed. If it was around I would smoke. Now I realize I would just rather not smoke weed. Sometimes I will have a joint in my backyard if I'm just having a "me" day or if I'm at a social gathering and my partner's not there.

But I think my partner is no longer so afraid relapsing. He doesn't really crave weed anymore and if he's around it he does okay. He thinks that maybe he could one day smoke again without going back into his old patterns.

He's not there yet, but he thinks it's possible. If we're still together for another three years we might share a joint, and that would be wild. I don't even know if I would want that. I don't think I've ever had a partner that I didn't smoke weed with, although I've had relationships where weed was not as positive a part of it. In past relationships, it's been sort of the situation where I'll go over to my partner's house, and he's stoned and just wants to watch dumb videos on the internet, and it's just a bummer of a time.

I've dated people who smoked way too much weed. My boyfriend and I now are really lucky that we both have pretty similar weed habits and comfort levels. I feel great that we can both smoke together.

We don't think about it too much, even though we do it most days. It just feels like another thing we do together, like eating food or drinking, that doesn't even really register as an extra thing on top of our regular activities. Usually, smoking makes us very productive, and we have magical, nice times writing music for our band together and then end up watching Columbo until we fall asleep. I'm not usually one to be creative on my own with weed—it's not like I sit down with a joint and a guitar and write a song or whatever.

But it's as if smoking lets us get into this weird other social zone together and that dynamic lets us be more creative. It definitely brings us closer together. For us, we're both really involved in each other's professional lives—I'm just finishing my undergrad in Critical and Cultural Studies, my partner is working on an English Lit PhD thesis, and we're both teaching.

There's a lot of overlap in our fields so we spend a fair amount of time being serious with each other, so it's fun to smoke weed and just giggle about dumb stuff and say dumb things together. Whether or not we have sex after we smoke really depends on the strain—a lot of them will make us just too focused on writing or whatever else, or too sleepy. But sometimes it just clicks and sex is the next thing that needs to happen. Stoned sex rules! It's sort of the same thing with weed and writing music or other creative stuff, where there is just a level of inhibition that doesn't seem to be there, and it makes things really great for both of us.

And, most importantly, truly nothing compares to smoking a joint in bed while cuddling after a really awesome stoned bang.

I recently realized that weed led to the neglect of communication between me and my partner, who just broke up with me. I started smoking heavily about five months ago, when I took this job that I don't like.

Originally Answered: Would you date someone who is constantly high on marijuana? Is it OK to date someone who smokes weed every day? Should I stop smoking weed just because my girlfriend wants me to even though she used to smoke weed before we got together?. Ask Molly Ringwald: I'm sick of my partner smoking weed – what should I do? 'I don't see I'd hate for someone to choose a substance over me, but I'd equally hate feeling like I was dating a parole officer. If you hate it as. I think it's impossible for me to date someone who doesn't want to get high with My partner used to smoke weed—he says he was addicted.

I teach chess to kids in a public school and I thought I could use weed to chill me out and help me deal with it; I would wake up, smoke, and then go to work.

But I think it made me a lot more likely to avoid people and want to be alone. And it definitely made me a lot less present with my girlfriend. She was in a fashion show, for example, and I couldn't even go to it because I smoked before. If I didn't start smoking I really think we would still be together.

Marijuana and Relationships don’t mix

If I smoked during the day, I would just try to avoid her. She lives across the street from me and I couldn't even invite her over. I feel like weed kind of shut me down and I couldn't show her love. I can't blame it all on weed—I have other problems—but it didn't help. I would just want to smoke and play chess by myself for hour. I also make music and art, and that's nice to focus on while I'm high.

Now I completely regret not being with her. At the end of our relationship she said, "Well, now you get to do what you want.

You always wanted to just study. I don't want to be, like, one of those old chess men who sit in the park all day. I want to be someone who can share something with someone and be considerate of another person's feelings. When I'm sober, I have healthier social habits.

I play chess for an hour, instead of five hours. I reach out to people.

Love And Other Drugs: What It's Like To Be The Girlfriend Of A Stoner

Like, I'd rather play chess for an hour than be a sad man who ends up alone. I smoke a lot because it helps calm down my general anxiety and PTSD. My girlfriend, April, definitely smokes more often after being with me. But April is happy that I smoke because it's hard for both of us when I'm anxious or on the verge of a panic attack.

I think I can confidently say that we both think the more cannabis I smoke to manage my anxiety, the better off I am and, consequently, our relationship is. And I'll never be mad if April wants to smoke more weed for her mental health concerns. I love having a partner I can smoke with.

You can't tell me weed isn't addictive when I have seen it with my own eyes. the issue before, but I was not about to be the girl dating a drug addict. brain is swimming in THC -- is not someone I'll allow myself to fall for. When we first began dating he did not smoke cannabis but what I didn't know at the Duncan's addiction might be weed but yours is your toxic. Leave the giggles and the munchies for Harold and Kumar, living with an addict is a place of brown water bongs and eye drops, trust me - I live with one.

Because cannabis is a big part of my mental health self-care practices, it feels a little alienating if my partner can't join in with me. When I was dating folks who didn't smoke, it was always a little sad for me. I love to pass a joint between my partner and me. It brings us closer together and it's one of the ways we have quality time.

Get high, go for a walk.

Get stoned, eat lots of food. Get high and fuck. When we're high, we just feel more relaxed in our bodies. April and I are both sex workers—in addition to the freelancing I do as a writer and dog walker, and April's nine-to-five—so our down time is crucial for us.

Smoking or eating edibles helps us decompress faster than just riding out our nerves. For us, weed has never caused any fights. However, April once called me out on how she was supplying the cannabis and I wasn't saying thank you enough for her offerings.

She likes a lot of verbal appreciation, which doesn't come naturally for me. I show appreciation through acts of service, but I learned to give her more verbal gratitude because I care about my partner's happiness. Apr 19pm. Photo by Kkgas via Stocksy. He went to counselling but stopped going as he found it upsetting talking about his family history, the only friends he has left do it, and his family seem to have given up on him.

His parents bought him his house and he's growing weed for extra cash. I want to be happy, but I also do not want to turn my back on him, however we can't go on arguing and making one another unhappy.

I have even said to him if he thinks he can't quit I will leave the relationship not out of spite, but so he can find somebody who doesn't mind the habit. He insists he knows it has to stop and he wants to be with me. I feel like I am stuck in a vicious circle with him and neither one of us wants to get out because we both love one another. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

The most loving thing you could do is to let each other go, certainly until you are both in a more stable position to have a healthy relationship. In the same way that he is struggling to give up his dependency on cannabis, you are struggling to give him up even though you know you should.

Dating someone with a weed addiction

Why else would you still be with a man who is often moody, selfish, anti-social, un-supportive, and sometimes violent? You need to re-discover your inner confidence, be firm and take control.

In the past you have told him that you will end the relationship if he keeps using drugs — next time why not follow through on your threat? I would recommend choosing a moment when he is as calm, rational and normal as possible. Suggest that Duncan gets help again. Most drugs are a form of anaesthetic and it is quite possible that he is using the cannabis to block out the pain of his past. You are not responsible for Duncan — he has to take responsibility for himself.

Give him space and time. Be strong and suggest that he only contacts you if and when he has been clean for at least six months. In the meantime get on with your life. Surround yourself with people who love you and who will encourage you. Consider seeing a counsellor yourself if you find it difficult to move on.

Pursue your passions, follow your dreams and re-build your self-esteem. I hope so.

When you are dating someone who begins to spend excessive time and who say marijuana is not addictive, marijuana dependency exists. Read these Marijuana Addiction stories and learn how smoking I don't see how you can love someone one day with all your heart and be. Omg! I am dating this guy who smokes when he is with his friends which is at I hope this helps someone understand what addiction to weed can do to your life.

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