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Understanding Colombian Culture and Dating: A Foreigner's Guide - Colombia Casanova

Dating Etiquette in Colombia - Colombian Woman [2018]

The original post was published on September 18, But what about Colombian men? How do the male locals shape up in comparison to the other half of the population? While Colombian women undoubtedly have more of a reputation for their looks — long sleek hair, tanned complexion, curvaceous figures — Colombian men lucked out in the gene pool too. A typical Latino has large dark eyes, facial hair, tattoos and lots of confidence. Make no mistake, Colombian men are not shy, gringas are likely to experience staring and calls from them just walking down the street.

I think it is pitiful that you cannot write something less shallow about such a beautiful, vibrant city than how to pick up Medellin women! Everyone knows the women there are beautiful and easy to meet and date. And that they love foreigners, even though you are Colombian. How about the gastronomy, culture, events, music??

THAT would be much more helpful to those who want to experience Medellin. To go there looking for women is pathetic and gives US men a really bad name — kind of like the incident with the Secret Service in Cartagena.

I have written about all of those topics.

If you look through my blog all of those topics are covered, even history my associates and I are tour guides here in Medellinbut this is the topic that gets the most attention. I think my post is probably one of the least offensive and paints the Medellin woman in a positive light. I think it paints them as easy pick-ups. Maybe most of your readers are men if this topic gets the most attention.

I completely respect your opinion and value your input. The topic of dating in Medellin? The fact that I prefer women who are professional? Thanks again for your comment. Dear Linda, It is very easy to safe yourself a peace of mind. Just do not read, and of course, do not judge things you are opposing naturally. America women say they got HIT On. In Colombia they call it meeting someone. This might be why Americans talk about it…cause the women are not like you, and a lot of other American uptight women.

Good Luck. They like attention so much and when they see other women especially cute women who are not fake like them nor have this man like attitude like them getting all the attention they get pissed off and nitpick every little thing out of frustration.

If that is how you feel then more power to you. Life is about living the way you feel is right for you. Problem with men is that they become too attached to the female specimen. First i would like to say that it is a great issue to write about. I gor to tell you the truth, when i read this post i got the feeling you would like to talk about your self a lil too much. And i, as someone that also live in medellin, i dont think the things are as you describe.

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The avarage girls will expect you to pay for everything, spescialy the texi. The kind of girls are you describe are exsisted, and i know them as well, but they are not common. The high quality girls wouldnt be that fascinated from the gringos. Normaly the low level will. Try to write less about your stories and to bring more facts that connected to reality. Hi Another Anonymous, thanks for the constructive criticism.

I will work on getting more actual facts. I rather speak about my own experiences, but I guess you are right; when writing about delicate issues like gender and relationships one should have some stats. Thanks again. I am I date 50 to 60 YO or so. Often they find me as fascinating as I find them. It is often a great experience.

I am Spanish tutor for foreigners in case someone is interested. Thanks Andrew this is my contact info: email: clasesmony gmail.

Women who like a man who is not nice need a psychologist. Live and learn and is this not why so many Colombian women think the men are all cheaters and then seek foreign men? Live and learn or error again? I hope not! Hi andrew. I ve been following your posts lately. I am too glad that a foreigner people as you write such a beutiful things about our city.

Espero que no haya cometido muchos errores. Hi Jhon, thanks a lot. I look forward to meeting you at our next Conversation Club Cocktail Party. I have been reading your posts and I am happy to see an honest approach to life there and to hear such a positive outlook on life there with your personal experiences. I definitely have a interest in visiting Medellin soon and exploring life and business there.

Hi Stacey, thanks for the positive feedback. Medellin is a great place to be, but then again a positive mind can make any place a great place. You gotta come see it to make it your own. I hope to meet you when you get down here.

I am totally interested in living in a city outside the US that will allow me more for my money and is friendly to Americans just looking to integrate into their lifestyle and culture.

Not being discriminated against for being 60 is also important. I am healthy fit and handsome. Is Medellin worth giving a shot. I love the idea of teaching English. I taught high school for a few years. Thanks for any and all responses. Hi Hollis. Medellin should definitely be on your list of cities to consider. In regards to ageism in the dating world here. There is, however, ageism for work here. It is very rare to see anyone over 40 years old working.

Since you were a teacher you could perhaps work at a university, but you have a fair warning. BTW being a blue-eyed white guy works to your advantage here. Thanks Andrew. Encouraging words and nice to hear. I know some rudimentary Spanish that I would love to build on. Given any opportunity I think I can handle the dating scene. Hi Andrew. Thank you very much for sharing your experiences without advertising for some dating site or other.

It makes you much more credible. And holding on to her if she happens to be attractive? Hi Hans, Thanks for the comment.

I write based on my experience and my personality. Alpha males are not all that Medellin women look for. Medellin has all types of women, so finding yourself a woman with the qualities you like is possible. I encourage you to come and test the waters. If you do visit Medellin make sure that you come for at least a month or two because most respectable women take a while to warm up to. There are so many things to do and see here. Thank you for the awesome post. I heard k-pop is huge in Medellin or in Colombia in general.

He told me a lot of young college aged Colombian girls would come up to you and ask to take pictures with them and etc. I have plans on visiting many countries in and Colombia is one of the country I will visit for sure!!

I love food so food adventure will be the number one priority to venture Colombia but not alone. I also have interest on meeting a local beautiful Colombian woman, not prostitutes, and find some romance at the same time too. Will I have a chance to do so?? Yo MKO, the short answer is yes, you have a chance at finding romance in Colombia.

I teach English and there is always a couple of students who love K-Pop or Korean soaps. I just wanted to say it!!! I admire you alot… my best wishes love u. Carol, thank you! You have definitely been one of my best students.

It was fun being your teacher. Hi Stephen, thanks! Yeah Medellin is great. The only thing missing is the beach, I used to live in Huntington Beach.

Final question: Just to keep with the theme of your blog. Im a blue eyed Scotsman, is it worth my while bringing my kilt or is that trying too hard with the local ladies?

Being certified and having worked for the ScotsMan. I think the key would be for you to get into a good paying position. I recommend living in a lower income level yet safe neighborhood first, once you get your bearings and cashflow up you can get into some of the more expensive neightborhoods.

Bring the Kilt! Go for it, Michael. They will love the kilt. I am going to Colombia within the next year and am really looking forward to it. Vaya con suerte Go with luck Jimmy. Answer: The best place to meet girls in Medellin…is…well…anywhere. The supermarket, the library, the metro, at a bar, dancing, etc.

Andrew ,this is the best blog I have had the pleasure to read. I met a Medellin girl on a dating website. She invited down to Medellin Colombia. I speak Spanish ,I would say as a second language. Here is my story. We were shuttled off to a Hotel that my girlfriend picked out. I had no inpout in this choice. It was not in Poblado, for some reason we ended up on Carretera Wall to wall little discos that are blasting music all night. I had to stay in Medellin for a month.

So I was stuck down by the metro near the stadium stop on Carrera I was told to take off my gold chain, gold watch, anything Gold, the Police roll in late or early in the morning in a military vehicle like all together. To be honest with you Andrew I felt there was an unverbalized thing going on that you are not where you should be. I needed a guard from the Hotel to get monies from the cajero ATM. Plus, of course my girlfriend shows me a video of Colombian soldiers in a military jeep all shot through the head.

Your right about the jealousy, anyway, after they filled me with horror stories about being kidnapped, murdered or worse during the Pablo Escobar period. I was totally paranoid about even buying a beer solo at night. Maybe they just psyched me out. I never did get to Poblado or any other nice area, only the malls. What is your opinion of that area down by Carrera Ja ja.

Andrew is it as dangerous as I perceived or am I just paronoid form my perception. I never heard the word drugs, nor did I ask about the mafia.

With good reason. But upon arrival back in Miami the Border patrol agents took me into a room and gave me a complete search and investigation of what the hell I was doing in Medellin. I had to go and call them and they gave me the third degree. W Why I was sending money to Medellin. To whom I was sending it. For what reason. What I was doing in Medellin. I know the story.

Miami was the money laundering capital during the Pablo Escobar era, but this is like 20 years ago. Anyway, they refused to release the monies in Colombia after an hour of investigation. What a total disgrace. If I had to do it over againI would have went straight to Poblado and payed for a hotel. I just think I was in the wrong place at the wrong time, but I have a beautiful fiance. Thanks for your time Andrew.

The neighborhood you were in is called Estadio it boarders the Laureles, Floresta, and Belen neighborhoods. Which are all decent neighborhoods. I lived in Floresta Carrera 80 just a few blocks up. And I have a friend who owns the best Hostel in Medellin right there on la 70 about 6 blocks from the stadium, you might consider staying in one of the private rooms there next time The Wandering Paisa Hostel.

My own family tried to do it to me when I got here. Filled me with horror stories about foreigners getting mugged in plain daylight, getting taken on la vuelta millionaria where they take you at gun point to different ATMs and make you withdraw money, etc. So yes your fiance and her friends were being way too over protective and scared you, that area by the stadium is fine, especially la 70 at night.

dating in Colombian, relationships in Colombia, Colombian girls, how to date Colombia is still a very traditional culture when it comes to dating and romance. For men going to Colombia, understanding Colombian culture is essential. This is especially true when dating is in the cards. I break it down in. Dating someone else; Frankly not interested. Infidelity is rampant in Colombian culture. Men and women cheat.

The whole thing about traveling is that you have to be more on guard than you do in your own town in the U. I read your article and I really enjoyed it and I got great information from it. Is there any truth to that and what can I do? Hostels are relatively cheap here in Medellin. Check em out Wandering Paisa Hostel. If you want to be in the Poblado neighborhood, where most tourists are. You might get tired of the dorm life at the hostels.

If so, you might want to check out some rooms for rent on Couch Surfing or on the many Facebook Groups. You could get a job and you could get a work visa.

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It depends on what your credentials are and what the job is. I have many friends who are here on work visas, so it is possible, but not easy. If I were you, I would start looking into that now, not when you get here. Spanish is pretty critical here. Most of the population here does not speak English at all. Anyway, to answer your questions: 1. The great thing about Colombian women is that there is not just one type of guy that they like.

Carrying a bank card is fine. What a great article and blog. Thanks for the amazing insight. Just had a couple of questions.

I will be visiting Medellin with 3 other Puerto Rican friends in November. We will be staying at am apartment we rented in El Poblado. What recommendations do you have in regards to restaurants, bars, clubs to go to. Also, what safety issues should we keep in mind while in the area. Hey Jaime, thanks for the comment. I actually wrote a nightlife post that you might find helpful: My Medellin Nightlife.

Are there any christian churches such as Pentecostal and Baptist churches in Middellin? Just reading these comments and how you respond to them especially negative ones gives me a good sense of the kind of person you are.

Your students must feel very lucky to have you. Hi Caleb, thank you for your kind words and invitation. I most definitely will make my way to Japan, awesome to know someone over there. Andrew- Soy Miguel se Seattle. Soy Chicano. I just returned from Medellin and Quilla for carnival and found the women in Colombia difficult to deal with or interact unless handled them with kid gloves.

Can you hit me up? Gracias hermano, Miguel Aguilar Seattle Firefighter. Hola Miguel, yes, for the most part women way more feminine than those in the U. Which is why I love them. I have, however, used ColombiaCupid. Feel free to add me on Facebook. I tried to send you an e-mail message on your e-mail address that you indicated in this blog, but it bounced back stating that Google tried to deliver your message, but it was rejected. I had some questions that I wanted to ask you via e-mail only, but the e-mail message was not delivered to the e-mail address that you indicated in the blog.

The e-mail address that I used to send the e-mail message to you was: info medellinbuzz. Hey Andrew. I tried Colombian cupid. Got average responses. A dating expert told me,that only the average Colombian women use the site. And the top most beautiful women did not. Is that true?

Recently I met a women,from Medellin. Shes smart,attractive,juiciosa,funny. I enjoy spending time with her. She recently had breast implants. Is that common in Medellin? She seems to be so concern about her body. I never met a women in USA,so concern about that. A few weeks ago,I found out that shes a cam girl model in Colombia. That really got me upset. A lot of perverts try to contact her. Being that you live in Medellin.

Do you know women who work as cam girls? Cause this women,seems like a great person. Is just the cam thing,that bothers me. Even though she assure me,its only to pay for her studies. Not even her mom knows about it. Is this usual in Medellin? It bothers me,that all the perverts bother her all the time. Theres a lot of guys,interested in her. Shes use to being told how beautiful she is.

But besides this,me cae bien. Any advice? And know the way of life there. Should I keep seeing her? Hi Phil, thanks for the comment. Let me answer your questions to the best of my abilities: 1. Not all Colombian women are on Colombian Cupid there are more than 20 million women in Colombia, therefore, not all are on there…or have even heard of the site. Plastic surgery in Colombia is low cost in comparison to the US and other countries and the level of quality can be very good, hence, Colombia being a leader in plastic surgery and at the top of plastic surgery patients.

Both men and women get stuff done here, so, yes, breast implants are common. Yes I know a couple girls that are CAM girls. And yes, they do it for the money. They earn great money because they get paid in foreign currency. My advice about seeing this girl…keep her as a friend. If you were living here in Medellin that would be different.

Thank you,I really appreciated. It would be great to live there,if I can find a decent job. I know spanish. I need to see what kind of Visa is require.

So I can know everything I need to know about the city. Thank you very much. Hi, Andrew! Any tips for a solo female traveler?

Other than the things you would watch out for in any city, is there anything else to be aware of? The media often portrays Colombia as extremely dangerous for females—not being able to walk out into the street alone during the day, people robbing you at knifepoint, etc. Hello Andrew…many thanks for a very informative blog.

Muchas gracias mi hermano…take care… David. Hello Andrew. Thank you for the insightful information you have provided about your life experiences living in Medellin. Can you give input on living in other cities in Colombia?

I have heard about some other cities in Colombia, that I would like to visit and spend time. Bogota the capital, obviouslyVillavicencio, Cali, and Bucaramanga.

I was thinking of coming to Colombia to live for a bit or longer in the near future. Jobwise, I would look to do a computer job and teach English. Any input, dating and otherwise, would be greatly appreciated. I currently live in Miami, Florida and was raised here. Thank you in advance. Xavier, I lived in Bogota for 6 months 5 years ago and it was great.

Loads of things to do, restaurants, bars, nightlife, etc. Andrew, just wanted to complement you for your blog. I just returned from Medellin last night. For years I heard about the women in Medellin so I finally decided to go and see what was all the fuss about.

Let me tell you!! We are from Southern California, we both speak Spanish so that was very helpful. The women and the people in Medellin are very social and very helpful.

The beauty of their women was beyond my expectation. I have been to approximately 25 countries around the world but the GDP of beautiful women per capita in Medellin is off the chart. By talking to women I met I was able to tell that they are very open minded and things are a little bit different than in the US.

I am writing about my own experience and these are my personal opinions. Though, I will have to better discribe them their butts as badankadonks. No bull. My advise to anyone going there with the intent to meet women there for a relationship, friendship or dating is to do the work before getting there.

Get on a dating site to talk and meet people so that you are set once you get there. Establish friendship before getting there to maximize your opportunities!!

For women plastic surgery is more important than getting a car or a motorcycle. Because they want to be attractive for their men. There are more women than men. You can get around the city with Uber it works great. You can get money from most ATMs make sure you let your bank know about it before you go. Bring a buddy all girls will set you up with their friends and you can share the hotel cost.

Yes most foreigners are welcome, they are very curious to meet people from other countries even other Latin countries. Be safe, be courteous, and have fun.

Therefore, I wanted to ask you, if you know some people who did wwoofing and maybe know some, who actually need some help somewhere in Medellin or anywhere else in Colombia?

Plus, do you have any recommandations, like places to visit, restaurants in Medellin, Street arts, music festivals and more? I really want to feel and be part of that culture! Hi Anthony, thanks for the comment.

So you might want to plan you trip around festivals. Yeah, your blog is always entertaining and interesting to read and then revisit at times… I travel quite often, working in Afghanistan with lots of time off in between tours but I have yet to travel through south America.

Plan on visiting for the first time, maybe AirBnB a week here n there, for a total of a month or so to start this july … Medellin, cali, etc. My buddy from argentina says I look argentine but should get that gringo effect you mentioned with my gringo look with longer dark hair, obvious American accent. Dunno what im gonna do for shoes yet but im sure some pants like you have and some V-necks and I should be ok.

What about the other way around? Are Colombian guys as interested in American girls as Colombian girls are in American guys? Will being American work to my advantage or will it just make me stand out? Hi Nicole, thanks for the comment. I have quite a few white, girl friends here. From the US and Europe and all of them have great luck here. They are seen as exotic…and sexy by guys here. Even the not so attractive ones get play. Just for their blond hair and white skin.

It seems you are still paying attention to this blog of yours and I take the opportunity to ventilate my roller-coaster feelings after writing a Colombian girl via hotmail. Normally I am a quite suspicious person and I give notice to inconsistencies in a story that leads me to believe that bogus is going on. Maybe I can believe this girl or she is a master to deceive me and trick money out of me. So far what she tells me about herself is possible.

Some questions about financial support are reasonable.

The Colombian Dating Culture. DSC Go ahead! Disrespect me! Let me show you what happens to the men who do This experience is. Before we dive into what it's like dating Colombian women, let's discuss the that's both good and bad about Latin America as a content, culture, and spirit. I have been on a quest to find my perfect Colombian woman match in Medellin. In this post, I go over my 8 year experienc.

I met her as a camgirl, yes I know, red alert, but wait. We came to talk a lot with each other in pvt, she was fully dressed all the time but she did a good show for me some days earlier. She told me she felt dirty, used and disgusted to be there and her mother disliked it. She is 24 years and lives with her parents. Many Colombian girls are doing that, she said. Yes, that seems to be true, many write that in their bios. She wanted to quit the site within the next two days, it was pure coincidence I was there before she checked out.

I never thought she would write. She did.

We have exchanged about 25 mails each since. She sent non-nude photos of herself to prove that she was the one I saw on the cam site. I offered her to learn English if I pay her, asked her to find an institute and show me the costs.

When I recently got angry at her for asking for money, she pointed out to me that I was the one offering her to go to English classes, not her.

She is right about that. She showed me an institute and it was about 85 dollars a month. Already during the webcam chat she mentioned her father was diagnosed with cancer and the medication and the treatment was very expensive. She did not expressively ask for money, but it was a difficult financial situation. Then her father got a heart attack.

She made selfies with herself in the intensive care station with a man in the bed behind. She needs to go to an internet cafe all the time, we would be able to be so much closer if I bought a computer for her — okay, I have heard this story many times. She sent a picture of what she wanted, dollars, I said the computers I buy here are maybe dollars and are perfectly okay for internet and chatting.

I never bought that computer. I will never do that. She does not insist, but now and then returns to the fact that it would be so much easier to chat. I have agreed to send her dollars every month to finance the English class and give some extra, two payments so far. Recently she wrote about all the trouble she goes through at home with fighting parents, her siblings want her to pay everything for her parents as she is the child living at home. She cannot stand the unrest and will rent a small room somewhere else.

That will increase her spending and my monthly support will not be sufficient for English class and an own living. Okay, could be true. To be able to send her money by bank wire the Colombian bank required her personal data, full name, birth date and address. She hesitated for several mails to give it to me. She said I could spread pictures of her from her webcam period, send them to the address, and her life would be destroyed for ever.

No employer would employ a person with nude pictures spread all around over the net. I found some of her on the net, by her webcam alias name, which is the same she uses for hotmail, I did not spread them. I got her full name, full address and birth date, and she received the money. Because of the huge fees she wants me to use Western Union next time.

She writes long mails, up to 4 pages, run through a translator. She has looked up info regarding my country, read about the history, the culture, looked at fotos, commented on it as any girl who wants to learn about a new country. It impressed me. She never talks about partying, discos, clubs, dancing, evening with friends, etc.

I feel some kind of love for her. The love an older single Western guy will feel for a much younger poor girl from a poorer country. I tried to arrange to see her. But the air fares are too high.

She has not really asked for money to see me. I have tried to go myself, but it will not be possible. We agreed she needs to learn English first. I wrote her a really angry mail the other day, bringing up all I heard about cheating, gold digging, that she claims to love me, but it is just because I send her money.

I expected she would be very angry and say I could go to hell, or that she would not reply at all, I offered her to go away and leave me in peace if my accusations were true. No, she replied in a long very sad mail, that she understands me, when she puts herself in my situation she can very well understand that I suspect her to be fake, but it is not true, and if I decide to cancel the relationship she would accept it, though she would miss me.

She could have written so many other stuff that would have prevented me from going on. She said all the recent costs for her parents, her new rental room, an accident on a motor bike she sent a picture of her bruised leghas created a situation where there is not enough money to pay her college fee end of July. She said she hated to bring up this subject again with me, as I was so against her talking about money, but she had no other person to ask. She wrote literally that this is the last time she will be asking for money.

I will remind her of it if she asks again, be sure. I understand that a girl from the Pereira area, who is very young, who seems to have high goals to get out of her miserable situation by working hard, studying hard, not meeting a Colombian guy who makes her pregnant which happened to her sistersis interested in a Westerner European with quite other financial means, and who is much older. She has no problems that I am much older, and I have no problems that she is much younger.

There is an age difference of 30 years. I never had a relationship and she had her last one three years ago where she lost a child in the fourth month. We get along very well by mail, we share a lot of values which surprises meshe is not childish, not stupid, not a party-goer, she wants to learn to swim, dance, skate, just to get away from her fighting parents at home.

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We discussed a future together but we came both, not just me, to the conclusion that it is probably not possible, the language, cultural and climate barriers are too high. We decided to go on as a bit more than friends on the mail and see what happens in the long run.

She will make her exam in psychology within 2 years. Before that nothing will happen. Am I getting robbed here or not, Andrew? I cannot tell. It can be either way. Is it possible that she is just a liar, that she is instead on another cam site, that she writes this way to many other stupid Americans or Europeans but four pages each to everyone every night? Or is it true that she wanted the contact with me because I treated her so good already in the webcam chat room, and I was so understanding and encouraging?

I understand that Colombianas look different on older men than Western girls do. That my secure financial situation and higher social status makes me attractive. And probably she has learned that Westerners have nothing against falling in love with much younger and good-looking girls from the Latina area. All relationships include hard facts, even from girls in my own country.

A poor guy cannot get a rich girl. A very ugly guy cannot get a good-looking girl even if he has a fortune up to a limit. Is it possible that she sends fake selfies of herself with a man in the hospital in the background who is not her father?

Why go through so much trouble to break into a hospital and make fake pictures? If I can make her life somewhat lighter by sending a relatively small amount every month, why not? I have asked her several times not to lie to me, to tell me the truth.

Okay, you can say whatever, but the length, the complexity, her interest in me and my country, makes me unsure whether it is fake or not. Is it true everlasting love? Maybe not. Unfortunately, dating also falls into this bracket. The reason why Latino men know how to treat a woman? Colombian culture is rooted in family and caring for relatives, especially mothers. While most women are thrilled to learn this, it does come with some difficulties.

Sundays are usually reserved as a family day, as are puentes and religious holidays. The bottom line is that dating a Colombian man is great fun and one of the best ways to integrate with the local society. If you want to visit Medellin and are looking for cheap flights click here!

Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. It is unacceptable. If someone comes from Mexico we call them Mexican, from Colombia, Colombian. There are some pretty gross words for latinos out there but no-one would dream of using them in these kind of articles, so keep the g word out too.

I have a name, a country, a language and a culture, just like anyone else, and I object to being referred to in any other way. I began to see it as simple slang for foreigners in general, and even adopted the use of it myself. You picked up on my use of the word constant; perhaps this was a reference to the whole blog, and I have raised the issue with you before. You say white, blue eyed people.

What about white, brown eyed people or myself with green eyes? Now it is not. It is a matter of educating people, but this cannot be successful if people refer to themselves with racial stereotypes. As long as foreigners in Latin America refer to themselves in this way, it is a losing battle.

That is the most offensive thing for me. Actually Des, I have a lovely time in Medellin every time I visit, and by way of a relationship i am involved in real life there, not that of the typical expat. I have been living amongst Latin Americans both here in London and in Colombia for many years now, and I get on very well with them.

I avoid the ex pat community in Medellin because of bigoted people like yourself. Oh, and by the way, I have been working in multicultural education for over 20 years, specialising in Ethnic Minority achievement. In that time I have seen racism in many forms. It comes from ignorance mostly…. I was quoting another writer. Gringo is a catchall phrase for foreigners. According to him, this took the power out of the word. Oprah questioned him directly on this video here and they agreed to disagree.

This sums up how I feel about the use of gringo. The intent behind the use of a word is what matters more than the word itself. Thank you for being at so reasonable and considerate about this David.

I worked for years in London schools, often having to deliver policies and actions to combat racism in communities that have more diversity than anywhere in the Americas, including New York. Understanding and respecting differences seemed to be the only way forward, but also assumptions, no matter how harmless they may seem, should always be challenged. I myself come from Colombian parents and visit Medellin every year. You are so right pero que saben ellos que an llamado tantas hentes afuera de su nombre por el color.

Yo creo que una hente como ellos con la historia de mi paez U. Yo lo puedo si decir porque yo soy mitad gringa y Latina. So I know both worlds. Por favor me perdonas los errores, no encuento los lentes de lear Y mi espanol para escriber no es como yo quisera.

Gracias por tus palabras y alomehol nos encontramos otra ves on line. Con respeto…. Not really an offensive term against anybody. Colombians in general use the term to refer to people with a an Anglo appearance and background regardless of their country, again not intending to offend them. David I have to agree with you, I have found Gringo many Colombians use is like Flacko, Gordo etc a nickname in friendly terms. I find zero offence in the word gringo. In fact, I introduce myself as a gringo.

Dont bring your victim culture down here. I have been living in the states for 13 years and I am now a gringa for some of my friends. Hugs Catalina. Aw man dont play into the whole race baiting crap. I get where your going with this but dont play into it man. Everyone needs to stop focusing on this garbage. Were going backwards here. We sometimes use physical attributes as terms of endearment. However, saying that there is reverse racism and that the experience of a caucasian man is at all similar to the racism and opression experienced by people of color is incredibly ignorant.

Color blind is not acceptable in this day and age, we must have an awareness of the oppressive experience of others and, sorry, white men do NOT suffer the same prejudices as people of color including in Colombia. Is it? I would imagine two foreigners meeting each other in a different culture could be a unique experience they could share. But I think Lisa intended that portion of the story as a tongue-in-cheek thing, not anything meant to stereotype all male expats…. The article is meant as a bit of fun and like with any country, everyone is not the same but I have just taken the general consensus for the article.

I think the whole blog needs to pay more attention to diversity in general. Paul, this is Ryan, the managing editor. If you could please list a half dozen stories that fail to meet your approval when it comes to diversity, I will give it my fullest attention.

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Our goal is to have diverse content on this site and I am open to any constructive criticism that can help us achieve that. Ryan, I can only talk about impressions on those rare occasions I have looked at the blog. To trawl through it and find examples would be very time consuming. Your recent article about LGBT Pride is very welcome and provides a much needed balance against all the dating articles.

Thanks for the compliment about the LGBT story. I encourage you to follow us and you will see more stories like that. I am of mixed race — in my family there are whites, Japanese, Colombians and Brazilians, so my goal is to properly represent diversity, not just with race or sexual orientation, but with everything. Kevin, I can see that you understand and agree with my point, but it is not a good idea to sink to their level by using other offensive terms.

Why is it that the people who disagree with me are so offensive rather than just disagreeing in a reasonable way? It speaks volumes about you! Oh dear Mike. You choose to live in Colombia to avoid the PC brigade. BTW what was your surname? Paul, Naturally you may think what you wish.

And many thanks to Ryan for being so kind. Tapped into this site today to gain insight about Columbian men.

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